The extremes we can do

A blind date experience
My first experience for going on a blind date was not saccharine. The feelings of anxiety, fear, and doubtful thoughts engulfed itself in my mind. Several questions piled up; couldn't stop thinking of the positive and negative things that could transpire. Tension molded itself in large circles sending hot chills run through my amazing body.

It was nerve wrecking but even so, I had to calm down my quivering nerves. At some point in life we want to try new things and meet new people; this was my chance to prove to myself the same and understand more of myself. I always felt I had the confidence to do and experience new things that life can offer without blinking an eye.

 Back to the drawing board, meeting someone for the first time and you have no clue how he/she looks like is spine-chilling. Its like going to do an algebra test without really knowing or understanding the formula; definitely you will strain, you might give up at the process.

 However, try as much as possible to be calm, open minded, and ready for communication because you never know – maybe he/she is heaven sent. Be careful though not to spill all the beans about yourself; everything is a step at a time.

Blind dates are bitter-sweet. During that moment you might meet with your main man or lady, (Mr. / Mrs. Right) and you might have an experience of a life time or more so you can encounter with a worst experience that you wish you never gave it a shot.

No giving up!

Dreams? Yes dreams! I believe we all have something that we want to achieve in life; if you don’t then do yourself a big favor, contemplate and write down one. A dream is something that drives you in life; it motivates you to wake up in the morning and engage yourself in activities that enhances your growth. It gives you direction to achieve the best that life offers.

I am a young being who goes through challenges and hardships in life, but that does not give me room to give up on my dreams. I have a strong believe that we can fulfill our goals and dreams in life if we actually have that vision, confess it, exercise commitment and self-confidence as well as work hard towards achieving them.

Our attitude towards life contributes a lot to what we can do and our perception of life leads us towards doing that which we didn’t imagine we could do. It takes up a step of faith and trusting in you, to do it.

Times are changing, the world is becoming global, and the people are becoming more creative and innovative. However, God gave us the gift of understanding, sound mind and wisdom; with that we can do exceedingly, abundantly and greater things which we could not imagine we could do.

“A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a vagabond, and want like an armed man.” This quote from the bible has a deeper meaning. When we become reluctant and lazy without working hard towards achieving our dreams, then definitely we won’t. When we procrastinate our tasks at hand, we will lag behind, which might contribute to our failure.

As we mature we learn a lot about life; we get enriched with knowledge and be skilled on how to handle challenges that come our way. The urge for independence start to consume our minds and we start searching for ways to better our lifestyle. Nobody wants to be stuck at where they are; we all want to have a better life!

“Do take up responsibility for your life and know that it is only you who can take you to where you want to be.”  We have to understand our engagements and what we can do in every step of our journey to have an efficacious life. We all have different ways of viewing success.

“If you understand what success means to you then be that person; successful.”

Yvette Cheptoo: Your past is past!

Yvette Cheptoo: Your past is past!: You might be that person out there who has been trying to get over your ex, but since you deeply loved him/her and had much trust, comm...

Your past is past!

You might be that person out there who has been trying to get over your ex, but since you deeply loved him/her and had much trust, commitment, love and hope for a better life together, you have had distress letting it go.  Trust me, I know the feeling and it is not easy to let go; more so, if you had given it your all.

One day a friend of mine was telling me his story. He had gone through a lot in his relationship. He was dating a 27 year old lady. At first, they had a deep connection and their relationship was flowing smoothly. Well, that’s how sweet the relationship is at the beginning; the honeymoon stage; everything is perfect at that moment and it feels so good to have someone who cares for you. However, nothing will ever be perfect or smooth there has to be hiccups along the way. Things began to get out of hand and they would fight; it reached a point they could not see each other face to face. He was burning inside and he could not help it; he had to let go.

When it comes to relationships, we go through hurt and pain. However, that should not stop us from loving again, instead, it should help us be strong enough to move on. Despite how hurt we may feel of our past relationship, forgiveness is the key! I know and believe that forgiveness does not come easy; it is a step at a time. The moment you accept the past hurt and let go of the bitter feelings then you are ready to move on to another step.  Happiness will be your daily bread.

Rick Warren once said, “Those who hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment.” Your past is past! Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it and then let it go.”

I loved that quote because it has pure truth in it. The problem with most us is letting go of the past pain and hurt, we tend to hold on to it and keep blaming people.

Some people get to date someone immediately after a break up as a way to get over their ex’s. Believe me that’s hell you are getting yourself into; you won’t feel the pain at that moment but you won’t be happy either. Rushing into another relationship immediately means you are just doing it for pleasure. What if the other party falls in love with you? Trust me that will make you feel worse. It is good to take time and give yourself little space to figure out what exactly you want.

Write down the qualities of that lady or man you want and be patient to meet with different people. It is always good to open your heart for new possibilities; you will meet that person God prepared for you. When you meet him/her you will deeply feel it. Give it a try!